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Lead by Following

12 min

A Fresh Look at Followership, Leadership, and Collaboration

Golden Hook & Introduction

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Olivia: I'm going to start with a number that completely rewired my brain: 43 percent. That's the potential performance boost a company can get, not from hiring a rockstar CEO, but from something we're all taught to avoid. Jackson: Let me guess... more meetings? Olivia: Worse. From getting better at following. Jackson: Following? No way. Every leadership guru says you have to 'take charge' and 'be a leader.' Who wrote this, a professional assistant? Olivia: (Laughs) Close! It's from Leadership Is Half the Story by Marc and Samantha Hurwitz. And what's fascinating is that Marc Hurwitz isn't some soft-skills guru; he has a PhD in cognitive neuroscience. He's a brain guy who looked at the data and realized our entire model of work is broken because we ignore the other half of the equation. Jackson: A neuroscientist telling us to be better followers. Okay, my interest is officially piqued. Let's get into it.

The 'F-Word' Revolution: Why Followership is the Most Underrated Superpower in Business

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Olivia: The book kicks off by tackling what they call the "F-word"—followership. It’s this invisible elephant in the room. We have a deep cultural bias against it. It sounds passive, weak, like you’re just a sheep. Jackson: Right. Nobody puts "Excellent Follower" on their resume. It feels like admitting defeat. Olivia: Exactly. And they use this perfect, hilarious example from the TV show 30 Rock. The boss, Jack Donaghy, bursts in to give Liz Lemon the "G.E. Followship Award." Jackson: Oh, I can just imagine her face. Pure horror. Olivia: Total indignation! She says, "I'm not a follower!" She's offended. But then Jack mentions the award comes with a $10,000 prize. Jackson: And suddenly she's the president of the followers club, right? Olivia: Instantly! She grabs the award and proudly accepts it "on behalf of followers everywhere." It's so funny because it's so true. We publicly scorn the label but privately understand its value. Jackson: That is so painfully accurate. We all want the prize but not the label. But is there any real prize? Is there data behind this, or is it just a nice thought? Olivia: This is where the neuroscientist author comes in. The data is staggering. Two researchers, Podsakoff and MacKenzie, studied teams across different industries. They found that positive followership behaviors—things like supporting the team, having a constructive attitude, and taking initiative—were linked to performance improvements of 17% to 43%. Jackson: Forty-three percent? That's not a small number. That's the kind of number that gets you a corner office. Olivia: It is! And it gets better. Another survey asked over 300 C-suite executives about this. Nearly 99% said effective followership improves the quality of work. But here's the kicker: 96% of those same executives said that people today simply don't know how to follow. Jackson: Wow. So the people at the very top are saying, "This is one of the most critical skills for success," and at the same time, "Almost nobody has it." That’s a massive gap. Olivia: A massive, invisible gap. And the book argues this isn't about being a doormat or a yes-man. That’s "followersheep," as they call it. Jackson: I like that. "Followersheep." That’s what I was worried about. Like that Benjamin Franklin quote, "Make yourselves sheep and the wolves will eat you." Olivia: Precisely. Active, effective followership is the opposite of that. It's a check and balance. They bring up the tragic crash of Korean Air Flight 801 in 1997. The captain was exhausted and making a critical error on the approach to Guam. The copilot knew something was wrong. He even hinted at it. Jackson: But he didn't challenge him forcefully enough. Olivia: He didn't. He was a passive follower in a moment that demanded an active one. He didn't want to disrespect the captain's authority. The plane crashed, and 228 people died. It's a horrifying example, but it shows that followership isn't just about making the boss happy; it's about having the courage and skill to support the mission, even if that means challenging the leader. Jackson: That reframes it completely. It’s not about subservience; it's about shared responsibility for the outcome. Suddenly, being a good follower sounds a lot more like being a hero. Olivia: It's a distinct skill set. The book points out that while top traits for leaders and followers both include honesty and competence, the lists diverge after that. Leaders need to be "forward-looking" and "inspiring." Followers need to be "dependable" and "cooperative." They're different, but complementary, roles. Jackson: Okay, so if the follower's job is that active and important, what's left for the leader to do? Just sit back and be inspired?

The Art of the Frame: Redefining Leadership as Architecture, Not Command

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Olivia: That's the perfect question, and it leads to the book's second huge idea. The leader's primary job isn't to command and control. It's to set the frame. Jackson: Set the frame? What does that mean? Like a picture frame? Olivia: Exactly like that. They tell this wonderful story about learning to salsa dance. The authors, Marc and Sam, took lessons to understand partnership better. The instructor, Jeff, told them that in salsa, the leader doesn't dictate every single move. The leader's job is to create and hold a "frame" with their arms and body. It’s a structure—clear, connected, but also flexible. Jackson: And the follower’s job? Olivia: The follower’s job is to create within that frame. To add the flair, the spin, the style. The follower has incredible freedom, but it’s freedom within a defined space. If the leader’s frame is too rigid and tight, the follower can’t move. If it’s too loose and sloppy, there’s no connection, and the dance falls apart. Jackson: That's brilliant! So the leader isn't choreographing every single step. They're creating the space for the dance to happen. It's architecture, not puppetry. Olivia: You nailed it. And this is where most organizations get it wrong. They either give people a completely blank slate and say "go innovate!" or they micromanage every detail. The book tells a story about a group of senior engineers who were given a mandate to be more creative. Jackson: Let me guess, it was a disaster. Olivia: A total stall. For months, nothing happened. They were paralyzed. They didn't know what kind of innovation was okay, what the budget was, what the boundaries were. They had no frame. Finally, a manager stepped in and provided one. He said, "Here are the constraints: it has to be in this product area, with this budget, and you have this much time." The first real innovation appeared within a month. Jackson: That's so counter-intuitive. We always think creativity needs total freedom, a blank canvas. But you're saying it actually thrives on constraints. Olivia: It does! Think about it. A haiku, with its strict 5-7-5 syllable structure, forces creativity. A sonnet does the same. The frame focuses energy. The book’s mantra is, "Think and work outside the box, but inside the frame." The leader provides the "inside the frame" part. Jackson: I love that. It gives both the leader and the follower a clear, powerful role. The leader is the architect of the sandbox, and the follower is the one building the amazing sandcastles inside it. Olivia: And a good follower can also give feedback on the frame. They can say, "Hey, this frame is a little wobbly," or "Could we make the frame a bit bigger over here?" It’s a dialogue. Jackson: So it's not just two separate roles. It's a dynamic relationship.

The Partnership Engine: How Dynamic Roles and Shared Goals Create 'Co-Flow'

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Olivia: Exactly. And when you have that perfect interplay—a leader setting a great frame and a follower creating brilliantly within it—you get what the authors call a "Generative Partnership." This is the ultimate goal. Jackson: 'Generative Partnership.' It sounds a bit like corporate-speak. What does that actually look like on a Tuesday morning meeting? Olivia: It looks like a team in a state of "co-flow." We all know that feeling of individual "flow," where you're so immersed in a task that time disappears. "Co-flow" is when a whole team hits that state together. And the key to it is that the roles of leader and follower are not fixed. They're fluid. Jackson: So people are switching back and forth? Olivia: Constantly. To explain this, they use my favorite story in the whole book, and it has nothing to do with business. It's about stickleback fish. Jackson: Fish? Okay, now you really have my attention. Olivia: Researchers at Cambridge studied these little fish. In any group, you have "bold" fish who are eager to leave cover and forage for food, and "shy" fish who are more cautious. When they put a bold fish and a shy fish together, something amazing happened. Jackson: The bold one just led the shy one around? Olivia: Not exactly. The bold fish did initiate more trips out into the open, and the shy fish would follow. But, the shy fish also started initiating its own trips, and when it did, the bold fish would follow it! They dynamically switched roles based on the situation. The result? Both fish foraged more efficiently and were more successful together than they ever were alone. The partnership made them better. Jackson: So this isn't just a business school theory, it's baked into nature? That's wild. It’s not about fixed roles, but about who has the 'ball' at that moment. Olivia: That’s the perfect analogy. The book even mentions basketball coach Dean Smith telling a young Michael Jordan, "If you can't pass the ball, you can't play." Passing the ball is physically passing the leadership role to someone else for a moment. Jackson: And that’s what creates a team instead of just a collection of talented individuals. It reminds me of what Steve Jobs said about his model for business being The Beatles. Four guys who were all geniuses, but they balanced each other out. The total was way greater than the sum of the parts. Olivia: That's the essence of a generative partnership. John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison, Ringo Starr—they all led at different times on different songs. Ringo Starr said that whoever had the best idea, that's the one they used. No one was standing on their ego. They had a deeply shared goal: to get to the "toppermost of the poppermost," as Lennon put it. When those shared goals started to diverge, the partnership dissolved. Jackson: Which is what happened to them in the end. Their individual goals became more important than the team's goal. Olivia: And the magic was gone. It shows that this partnership model requires constant attention, both to the roles we play and the goals we share.

Synthesis & Takeaways

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Jackson: So the whole book is a challenge to our hero-worship of the lone leader. It’s saying that true success, true innovation, isn't a solo performance. It's a duet. And for decades, we've been trying to clap with one hand. Olivia: That's a perfect way to put it. We've been telling half the story. And the most powerful thing we can do, according to the authors, is just to start a new conversation. To give people the language to talk about this other half. Jackson: Give them the language? What do you mean? Olivia: They tell a story about a man named Dave who attended one of their workshops. He’d been bouncing from job to job, feeling "corporately dysfunctional." He was miserable. During the workshop, he had this life-altering realization. He wasn't dysfunctional; he was just missing the skills of followership. No one had ever told him it was a skill he could learn. Jackson: Wow. So just identifying the problem, giving it a name, was enough to change his trajectory? Olivia: It changed everything. He went on to become a successful and happy employee at a large corporation. Just having the vocabulary—"followership," "setting the frame," "generative partnership"—it gives us a new way to see our own careers and our role in any team. Jackson: It makes you wonder, in your own team, are you playing your part in the duet? Are you setting a good frame for others, or are you creating brilliantly within the one you've been given? And are you willing to switch roles when the music changes? Olivia: Something to think about. This is Aibrary, signing off.

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