
Dating on YOUR Terms: Draw Him In!
Podcast by Five Percent Happier with Autumn
38 Dating Secrets to Get the Guy, Keep Him Interested, and Prevent Dead-End Relationships
Dating on YOUR Terms: Draw Him In!
Autumn: Today we're diving into 'Never Chase Men Again' by Bruce Bryans. It tackles how to navigate dating with confidence and self-respect, attracting quality partners without the exhausting chase. Autumn: Ever feel like you're doing all the work in dating? You meet someone promising, the connection feels amazing, but soon he’s pulling away, taking ages to text back, or making vague plans. For busy folks, it's easy to mistake constant texting or always being available as just being keen or efficient. But this often backfires, pushing him further away. You end up confused, questioning your worth, stuck wondering why that initial spark fizzled out and why you’re investing so much more emotional energy than he is. Autumn: So, what actually works? Bryans centers on becoming a 'high-value woman'. This isn't about playing games, but genuinely cultivating self-worth – radiating an 'I don't need you to want me' attitude because your happiness isn't dependent on him. How? By having your own full, engaging life – passions, friends, goals – that you don't just drop when a man shows interest. This creates natural scarcity; he realizes your time is valuable and needs earning. It also means letting him take the lead, especially early on. Does constantly checking your phone or initiating every single chat sound familiar? Try easing back. Let him wonder what you're up to; let him invest. Respond warmly when he reaches out, but don't feel obliged to keep texting endlessly. Maybe nudge towards a quick call instead? Crucially, maintain your authentic self. Don't mold yourself into who you think he wants. And pay attention to actions over words. Is he consistent? Making concrete plans? Introducing you to his world? That reveals true interest. It’s about fierce self-respect, clear boundaries, and the confidence to walk away if someone isn't showing consistent effort. Autumn: Your immediate takeaway? Think about one person you're dating or recently dated. Have you been initiating most contact? Tonight, try stepping back just a bit. Use that reclaimed time for you – call a friend, dive into a hobby. See how it feels to redirect that energy inward. Remember, the right person meets you halfway. Until next time, protect your peace.