
More Myself
10 minA Journey
Introduction
Narrator: Imagine a 19-year-old artist on the cusp of fame, standing in a photo studio for her first major magazine cover. She’s been told this is her big break. But as the shoot progresses, the photographer dismisses her team, leaving her alone. He coaxes her, "Just open your shirt a little... pull your jeans down a bit." Feeling cornered and manipulated, she complies. When the magazine hits the stands, she sees the photo and is flooded with shame. It’s more revealing than she ever intended, an image that feels stolen from her. She feels objectified, her power stripped away in a single, calculated moment. This wasn't just a bad photoshoot; it was a violation that would ignite a lifelong promise to herself: never again would she let someone rob her of her power.
This pivotal moment is one of many raw, honest stories from Alicia Keys's memoir, More Myself: A Journey. Co-written with Michelle Burford, the book is not just a celebrity autobiography but a profound exploration of the journey to shed the masks we wear and find the courage to live authentically. It charts her path from a guarded young woman building armor to survive, to a global icon learning to embrace her full, unfiltered self.
Forging Armor in a Concrete Jungle
Key Insight 1
Narrator: Alicia Keys’s journey toward self-possession began long before she ever touched a piano key. It was forged in the gritty reality of 1980s Hell's Kitchen, New York. A particularly formative memory comes from when she was just seven years old, riding in a taxi with her mother on a cold December day. She noticed women on a street corner dressed in revealing clothes, shivering in the cold, and asked her mother why. Her mother’s response was simple yet profound. She explained that when people go through hard times, they sometimes have to do things they don’t want to do just to survive.
That explanation planted a seed in young Alicia’s mind. In that moment, she made a silent vow to herself to never be in a position of such powerlessness. This vow became a cornerstone of her identity. Growing up, she learned to navigate a world filled with pimps, addicts, and danger by developing a tough exterior—a tomboy persona with baggy jeans and braids, designed to make her invisible and unapproachable. This armor protected her, but it also became a cage, walling off her vulnerability and, in many ways, her true self. This early conditioning to be guarded and self-protective would follow her into the music industry, shaping her initial interactions with fame and the pressures that came with it.
The Price of a Piano
Key Insight 2
Narrator: When Alicia Keys first auditioned for the executives at Columbia Records, she was led into a stunning office where a magnificent, marble-white baby grand piano stood waiting. The head of the label, Donnie Ienner, made her an enticing offer: if she signed with them, that very piano would be hers. For a young artist from a humble background, this was more than just an instrument; it was a symbol of success, a tangible reward for her talent. She played her heart out and, swayed by the promise, signed the contract.
However, the dream quickly soured. The label began pressuring her to change her sound, to be more upbeat and less piano-driven, to fit into a pre-packaged mold. Producers tried to control her image and her music, leading to intense creative clashes. The piano, which was supposed to be a symbol of her achievement, became a metaphor for the compromises the industry demanded. She eventually learned a hard lesson, one she shares in the book: "Always study the fine print in your contract. And after you’ve negotiated the best possible deal for yourself, buy your own damn piano." Realizing her artistic soul was not for sale, she made the bold decision to walk away from Columbia Records, a move that allowed her to reclaim her creative freedom and set the stage for her authentic debut.
Breaking Down to Break Free
Key Insight 3
Narrator: By 2006, Alicia Keys was a global superstar, but the relentless pace had taken its toll. The constant touring, recording, and performing had left her depleted. She describes a moment of total burnout in a small, gray dressing room in New York. As she prepared for yet another photoshoot, she felt completely disconnected from herself, a captive to every demand and request. She recalls feeling that she had delivered her "grandest performance yet: convincing the world that, behind my smile, all was as perfect as it appeared."
But behind the smile, she was unraveling. She broke down in tears, confessing to her best friend and manager, Erika, that she was beyond burned out and had never felt more alone. This breakdown wasn't a sign of weakness; it was a turning point. It was the moment she finally acknowledged she couldn't continue living behind the facade. This crisis led to a radical decision: a solo trip to Egypt. This journey wasn't a vacation; it was, in her words, a "prison break." It was a deliberate act of reclaiming her time, her mind, and her spirit, allowing her to reconnect with herself far from the demands of her career and begin building a life on her own terms.
The Messy, Beautiful Work of Blended Families
Key Insight 4
Narrator: Alicia's journey toward becoming "more myself" also required a deep transformation in her personal relationships. After her long-term partnership with producer Kerry Brothers ended, she found an unexpected and profound connection with producer Swizz Beatz. Their relationship, however, came with the complexities of a blended family, as Swizz had children from a previous marriage to Mashonda Tifrere.
Initially, the co-parenting dynamic was fraught with tension and misunderstanding. But committed to creating a healthy environment for the children, Alicia, Swizz, and Mashonda began the difficult work of building a new kind of family. Alicia introduced a communication technique called "active listening," where each person would speak without interruption while the others listened, then repeat back what they heard to ensure true understanding. This practice, though awkward at first, became a breakthrough. It fostered empathy and respect, allowing them to move past old wounds and focus on their shared love for the children. Their story is a powerful testament to the idea that family is not defined by biology but by love, communication, and the intentional, often difficult, work of choosing unity.
The Unmasking of a Revolution
Key Insight 5
Narrator: The promise Alicia made to herself as a 19-year-old—to never again be robbed of her power—came full circle years later in a very public way. After a magazine heavily airbrushed a photo of her to make her arms and shoulders appear smaller, she was once again confronted with the industry's suffocating beauty standards. But this time, she was no longer a vulnerable teenager. She was a woman who had done the work to reclaim her identity.
This experience, combined with her journey of self-discovery through meditation and reflection, led to her famous #NoMakeup movement in 2016. It began with a photoshoot where the photographer captured her raw, makeup-free face, and Alicia saw a version of herself she had long hidden: strong, real, and beautiful. Her decision to appear publicly without makeup wasn't just about cosmetics; it was a personal revolution. It was a declaration of freedom from the judgment and expectations that had followed her for years. It was the ultimate act of embracing her true self, inspiring millions around the world to question the masks they wear and to find the courage to show their own authentic faces.
Conclusion
Narrator: The single most important takeaway from More Myself is that authenticity is not a destination one arrives at, but a continuous and courageous practice. It is the daily choice to confront past wounds, to shed the layers of armor built for survival, and to listen to the quiet inner voice that knows who you truly are. Alicia Keys’s journey reveals that becoming "more yourself" requires a willingness to be vulnerable, to set boundaries, and to redefine success on your own terms.
The book leaves us with a powerful challenge. We all wear masks, whether it’s the armor of a tough exterior, the facade of perfection, or the makeup we use to hide our insecurities. Alicia Keys’s story prompts a vital question: What would it mean for you to live a little more of yourself, and what is the one small, brave step you can take today to show your full face to the world?