Narrator: Imagine being a celebrated spiritual author, about to launch your seventh book, an expert on detoxing from judgment. Yet, behind the scenes, you are a mess. You’re stressed, resentful, trying to control every outcome, and repeating a toxic mantra in your head: "If I don’t do it, no one else will." Your energy is so low that you become physically sick and depressed. This isn't a hypothetical scenario; it was the reality for Gabrielle Bernstein during the launch of her book Judgment Detox. She was, by her own admission, energetically strangling the very success she was trying to create. How does one go from a state of frantic control and misery to one of flow, joy, and effortless success?

The answer to that paradox lies at the heart of her later work, Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams. Bernstein uses her own moments of misalignment to reveal a fundamental truth: the Universe is always responding to our energy. This book provides a framework for shifting that energy, not through more effort, but through more alignment, to stop pushing against life and start attracting it.

Narrator: The foundational principle of Super Attractor is that the Universe is always delivering. It doesn't judge our desires as good or bad; it simply responds to the energy, thoughts, and emotions we put out. As Bernstein puts it, "what I believe is what I receive." When our energy is aligned with joy, love, and appreciation, we are in the flow of well-being and attract positive experiences. When we are vibrating with fear, lack, and control, we create resistance and attract circumstances that match that negativity.

Bernstein illustrates this vividly with the story of her disastrous Judgment Detox book launch. Consumed by fear, she fell into "manic manifesting," trying to force every detail into place. This controlling energy created a cascade of negative effects: her team felt her stress, her relationships suffered, and she became physically ill. She was putting out an energy of struggle, and the Universe was echoing it right back to her.

The turning point came one night when she hit bottom and declared to her husband that she was done with the drama. She decided to change the story. This decision was the first step in what she calls the "Choose Again Method," a simple but profound practice for realigning with the Universe. The method has three steps: first, notice the negative thought without judgment. Second, forgive the thought and yourself for having it. Third, consciously choose a better-feeling thought. By choosing to focus on getting more help and surrendering the outcome, Bernstein's energy shifted instantly. Within days, her book tour was transformed, new support appeared, and the joy returned. This experience demonstrates that our thoughts are never idle; they are constantly creating our reality, and we have the power to choose them at any moment.

Narrator: In most goal-oriented cultures, feeling good is seen as the reward for hard work and achievement. Super Attractor flips this idea on its head, arguing that feeling good is the prerequisite for achievement. The biggest block to attracting our desires is a subconscious resistance to feeling good. Many people, Bernstein explains, are addicted to struggle, believing that success must be hard-won and that ease is a sign of laziness or impending disaster.

She shares her own journey of overcoming workaholism, which was fueled by a deep-seated fear that if she relaxed, everything would fall apart. This fear of feeling good, she realized, was blocking her power. The solution was to make feeling good her priority. This involves using what she calls the "Think It to Feel It Method." When facing a difficult situation, one can borrow a feeling of happiness or support from another area of life. For Bernstein, when she felt unsupported in her business, she would focus on the feeling of support she got from her event planner, Anette. By meditating on that specific good feeling, she began to change her energetic vibration, and soon, new people and support systems were attracted into her business.

This principle is further clarified by the Emotional Guidance Scale, a concept from Abraham-Hicks. It shows that emotions exist on a spectrum from despair to joy. It’s not always possible to jump from despair to joy, but we can always reach for a slightly better-feeling thought—moving from powerlessness to anger, for instance, is an energetic step up. The goal is to have fun along the way, because joy is the vibration that opens invisible doors to new opportunities.

Narrator: A major block to attracting what we want is the "lack mentality"—the belief that there isn't enough to go around. This mindset breeds comparison, competition, and jealousy, all of which are low-vibration energies that signal lack to the Universe. Bernstein argues that to become a Super Attractor, one must heal this fear of lack and embrace a mindset of universal abundance.

A powerful way to do this is to shift from a "get" mentality to a "give" mentality. This is beautifully illustrated by the story of Stephanie, a student from Bernstein's masterclass. Stephanie was excited to host her first workshop at a local library but was devastated when only one person showed up—and that person wasn't even there for the workshop. Instead of succumbing to embarrassment, Stephanie chose to serve. She offered to lead the workshop just for this one woman, who, it turned out, was desperately in need of a "miracle." By shifting her focus from what she could get (a big audience) to what she could give (her knowledge and support), Stephanie's energy transformed. That single act of service became a catalyst for her career as a successful coach.

Another key practice is to genuinely want for others what you want for yourself. Bernstein shares her own struggle with this during her journey to conceive. She initially felt jealousy and depression when her friends became pregnant. She realized this comparison was reinforcing her own sense of lack. She made a conscious choice to start celebrating her friends' joy, asking them about their pregnancies and spending time with their children. By doing so, she began to assume the positive energy of motherhood, and her own baby started to feel closer. This demonstrates that celebrating others' success doesn't diminish our own chances; it expands our capacity to receive.

Narrator: A core tenet of Super Attractor is that we are not alone. There is a spiritual realm of loving support—call it the Universe, God, or spirit guides—that is always available to us. The only requirement to access it is our willingness to ask for help and surrender our own limited plans. Bernstein encourages developing a personal relationship with this guidance, which can take many forms, including angels, deceased loved ones, or one's own Higher Self.

The power of this connection is shown in Bernstein's experience speaking at Oprah's SuperSoul Sessions. She was incredibly nervous, feeling the pressure of the high-profile event. Remembering the advice of a medium, she meditated and called on her late mentor, Dr. Wayne Dyer, to guide her. She immediately felt a calming presence. When she went on stage, she felt as if Wayne were with her, allowing her to speak effortlessly from a place of love and service, rather than ego and fear.

This act of "doing less to attract more" is about letting go of the belief that we must rely solely on our own strength. By turning over our desires to a higher power through prayer or meditation, we suspend our fearful, controlling mind and tap into infinite wisdom. This doesn't mean being passive; it means waiting for inspired guidance before taking action.

Narrator: Many people believe manifesting is a passive process of just thinking positively. Bernstein clarifies that action is necessary, but it must be spiritually aligned action, not forceful, ego-driven hustling. She outlines a four-step method for this: Inspiration & Service, Belief, Action, and Patience.

Her own story of landing a cover story in the New York Times Sunday Styles section is a perfect case study. First, her desire was backed by inspiration and service; she wanted to shine a light on a growing spiritual movement to help others. Second, she had unwavering belief, placing the New York Times masthead on her vision board three years prior. Third, she took aligned action by pitching the story to a reporter she knew. Finally, and most crucially, she practiced patience. When months went by with no response, she didn't panic or push. She trusted the Universe's timing, knowing that "those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait." When the reporter finally called, the story came together with incredible synchronicity, launching her career to a new level. This illustrates that when our actions come from a place of peace and trust, the Universe conspires to support us in miraculous ways.

Narrator: The ultimate goal of a Super Attractor is to cultivate unwavering faith—not just hoping for help, but knowing it's on the way. This requires continuous practice, especially when faced with fear and doubt. Bernstein's three-year journey to conceive her son serves as the book's most powerful testament to this principle.

Throughout her struggle, she was constantly challenged to surrender her timeline and trust a plan greater than her own. When she felt despair, she would pray for guidance. In response, the Universe sent signs. One day, two wild turkeys appeared on her lawn; she later discovered their spiritual meaning is fertility. When she was stressed, a song would play on her car stereo with lyrics that felt like a message from her future child, telling her to be patient. When she asked Archangel Gabriel for a sign of a lily, a song titled "Way Go Lily" mysteriously started playing on her locked phone.

Each of these moments was a lesson in letting the Universe catch up with her dreams. It taught her that faith isn't a destination but a practice of continually choosing to see love instead of fear, and to appreciate what is, even while reaching for more.

Narrator: The single most important takeaway from Super Attractor is that manifesting is not about bending the world to your will. It is about bending your own will to align with the loving, abundant, and ever-present flow of the Universe. The real work is not in the striving, but in the surrendering; not in the getting, but in the allowing. It’s a profound shift from believing you have to make everything happen to knowing that your primary job is simply to feel good.

The book leaves us with a beautiful and challenging truth: the greatest power we have is the power to choose our own thoughts and emotions. Can we choose joy even when we're disappointed? Can we choose to see abundance when we feel lack? Can we choose to have faith when we are steeped in fear? Answering "yes" to these questions is the practice, and a life beyond your wildest dreams is the result.