Autumn: Today we're diving into "Running on Empty" by Dr. Jonice Webb, a book tackling that subtle, nagging feeling some of us carry – like something vital is missing inside. Autumn: So, what problem does this book solve? It addresses Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN. This isn't about obvious abuse, but the absence of enough emotional validation growing up. Maybe you look successful, hitting career goals, but feel oddly empty or disconnected? Perhaps identifying your own feelings is tough, or asking for help feels almost impossible? For busy professionals, it might feel like running on fumes despite achievements, leaving you wondering why you aren't happier or why connections feel shallow. It’s that invisible burden draining your tank. Autumn: Okay, how do you start refueling? The first step is simply recognizing CEN. Understanding it’s not some personal flaw, but about unmet needs, is incredibly validating. It shifts the question from "What's wrong with me?" to "What was missing?". From there, it’s about building emotional awareness. Many with CEN struggle to name feelings beyond 'okay' or 'stressed'. Can you pinpoint what you're feeling right now? Webb suggests practicing this – pausing, identifying, labeling emotions without judgment. Think of it as learning the language of your inner world. You also need self-compassion. That harsh inner critic often echoes what was missing – a supportive internal voice. Try speaking to yourself with the kindness you’d offer a friend. Notice that fierce independence, that difficulty relying on others? That could be CEN showing up as 'counter-dependence'. Acknowledging it reduces its power. Finally, consciously nurture yourself. Basic self-care – rest, good food, movement – becomes an act of giving yourself the consistent emotional attention you might not have received. It's about actively meeting your own needs. Autumn: Here’s your takeaway: Tonight, before sleep, pause. Ask yourself: "What was one distinct feeling I had today, and where did I feel it in my body?" Then, gently ask, "What did I need in that moment?" Just noticing is the first powerful step to filling that tank. Go refuel yours, even just five percent.