
Let It Settle Journal
9 minGUIDED PROMPTS and PRACTICES to MOVE YOU from CHAOS to CALM
Introduction
Narrator: In the constant storm of modern life, our minds can feel like a snow globe that’s been violently shaken. The endless notifications, the pressure to be productive, and the weight of personal and professional demands create a blizzard of thoughts and anxieties. We rarely get a moment for the glittering chaos to float gently down, to let the scene become clear again. We are told to find calm, but how? What does it actually mean to let the storm inside us settle, and what practical steps can we take when the world won't stop shaking us?
This is the central question explored in Michael Galyon's Let It Settle Journal: GUIDED PROMPTS and PRACTICES to MOVE YOU from CHAOS to CALM. Born from the author's own difficult life experiences, this book is not a theoretical treatise on mindfulness but a tangible, experiential toolkit. It offers a structured path to navigate the internal chaos, providing practical exercises and profound insights to help anyone find their way back to a state of clarity and peace.
Finding Calm Begins with Grounding in the Present
Key Insight 1
Narrator: The foundational principle of the book is the concept of "letting it settle." This isn't about ignoring problems or forcing tranquility; it's the process of allowing the mind, body, and emotions to find their natural equilibrium. Galyon argues that in a world of information overload and blurred boundaries between work and life, finding calm is no longer a luxury but a necessity for mental health. The first step toward this settled state is reconnecting with the only moment we truly have: the present.
Anxiety and stress thrive when our minds are lost in the past, rehashing what went wrong, or in the future, catastrophizing about what might. To counteract this, the book introduces simple yet powerful grounding techniques. One of the most immediate is the 5-4-3-2-1 Calming Technique. When anxiety spikes, a person is guided to pause and engage their senses directly. They identify five things they can see, four things they can physically touch, three things they can hear, two things they can smell, and one thing they can taste. This simple exercise yanks the mind out of its anxious spiral and anchors it firmly in the physical reality of the present moment, proving that calm can be accessed through the body. This somatic approach extends to facing fear, which the book reframes as a natural signal that we are moving toward something meaningful. When fear triggers the body's overprotective fight-or-flight response, a technique like the Butterfly Hug—crossing the arms over the chest and tapping gently—can soothe the nervous system and create a sense of safety.
Coming Home to Yourself Requires Taming the Inner Critic
Key Insight 2
Narrator: The journey inward, what Galyon calls "coming home to yourself," begins with learning to listen. Our minds produce a constant stream of thoughts, but not all of them are true or helpful. The book teaches that we are not our thoughts; we are the awareness observing them. This distinction is crucial, as it allows us to challenge the negative, automatic patterns that often run our lives.
The most powerful tool for this is the "Gremlin Discovery Technique," a method for identifying and personifying the inner critic. The process is transformative. First, a person reflects on moments of self-doubt and identifies the characteristics of that critical inner voice. What does it say? What does it sound like? Next, they give this "gremlin" a name and a physical form, turning an abstract feeling of negativity into a separate, observable character. This act of separation is key, as it stops the person from identifying with the criticism. The next step is to engage in a dialogue with the gremlin, asking it what it’s trying to protect them from. Often, the inner critic is a misguided protector, born from past hurts and fears. By understanding its motivation, one can establish boundaries and reclaim control.
Once the gremlin's voice is identified, it can be replaced. The "Self-Love Guided Visualization" offers a powerful method for this. A person is prompted to identify a "dear one" in their life—someone who offers unconditional love and support. By visualizing this person's loving voice and perspective, they can actively use it to counter the gremlin's harsh words, slowly internalizing a kinder, more compassionate inner dialogue.
True Growth Involves Letting Go and Redefining the Future
Key Insight 3
Narrator: One of the most painful yet necessary parts of personal growth is letting go. This doesn't just mean releasing a job, a relationship, or a grudge. Galyon astutely points out that when we let go of something, we are also mourning the loss of the future we had envisioned with it. This process can leave a person feeling adrift, without a map for what comes next.
To navigate this, the book provides a structured "Future-Mapping Process." This isn't about wishful thinking; it's a deliberate practice of reflection and creation. The first step is to articulate the current vision that is being lost, acknowledging the dreams tied to it across different life areas like career, family, and health. The next step is a creative exercise: reconnecting with one's younger self. By visualizing a past version of themselves, free from current constraints, a person can recall forgotten aspirations and passions.
The third step is integration. Here, one compares the past and present visions, consciously deciding which elements to keep and which to release. This leads to the final, most empowering steps: crafting a new future vision that transcends the past and then detailing it with specific, actionable goals. This process transforms the painful act of letting go into a proactive opportunity to design a life that is more aligned with one's authentic self.
Honoring Connection is an Active Practice of Empathy and Forgiveness
Key Insight 4
Narrator: After finding calm and coming home to oneself, the final part of the journey is about honoring connection with others. Galyon emphasizes that empathy is not passive sympathy; it's an active engagement with another's experience. To cultivate this, the book introduces the "Empathetic Inquiry Process." This involves asking a series of internal questions when faced with another person's challenging behavior. For instance, if a colleague is consistently missing deadlines, instead of defaulting to frustration, one would ask: What values might be guiding them? What experiences have shaped their perspective? What pain might be underneath their actions? This shifts the focus from judgment to curiosity and compassion, opening the door for genuine connection.
This compassionate lens is also applied to the difficult process of forgiveness. The book frames forgiveness not as an act for the other person, but as a gift of freedom to oneself. It’s a process of releasing the heavy burden of resentment. The journey involves several steps: telling your story to a trusted source, allowing yourself to feel the anger, calculating the emotional cost of holding on, and creating a space for empathy. The process culminates in meditations designed to help release the vision of what could have been and envision a future free from the constraints of past hurts. By practicing forgiveness, first for oneself and then for others, a person can heal deep wounds and navigate life with greater understanding and peace.
Conclusion
Narrator: The single most important takeaway from Let It Settle Journal is that inner peace is not a destination to be reached but a set of skills to be practiced. Calm is not a state of being, but a state of doing. Michael Galyon demystifies abstract concepts like mindfulness and self-love by breaking them down into concrete, repeatable exercises—from the 5-4-3-2-1 technique that grounds you in seconds to the Future-Mapping process that helps you rebuild after loss. The book provides a practical roadmap for anyone who feels lost in the internal chaos of modern life.
Ultimately, the journal serves as a powerful reminder that you are worth the effort it takes to find your center. Its most challenging and liberating idea is that you don't have to be fully healed to be whole, and you don't have to wait for the storm to pass to find peace. So, the next time the chaos swirls, perhaps the most radical act is to follow the book's final advice: take a deep breath in, breathe out, and just for a moment, let it all settle.