
Imperfect Courage
11 minIntroduction
Narrator: Imagine standing in a pawnshop, the air thick with the ghosts of other people's desperation. In your hands are your most precious pieces of jewelry—family heirlooms, gifts from your mother and grandmother. You’re not there because of a gambling debt or a sudden tragedy. You’re there to sell a piece of your past to fund a fragile, uncertain future. This was the reality for Jessica Honegger in 2010. The real estate market had crashed, her family was in financial crisis, and she needed just $900 to build a proper website for a fledgling business idea—selling accessories made by artisans in Uganda to help fund the adoption of her son from Rwanda. That single, gut-wrenching act of pawning her jewelry was not an act of confidence or fearlessness. It was an act of imperfect courage.
This raw, defining moment is at the heart of Honegger's book, Imperfect Courage. It’s a memoir and a manifesto that dismantles the myth that changing the world requires flawless plans and a complete absence of fear. Instead, it offers a road map for moving forward while scared, for building a life of purpose not in spite of our fears and failures, but because of them.
Courage is Not Fearlessness, It's Acting Scared
Key Insight 1
Narrator: The central premise of the book is a redefinition of courage. It isn't the heroic, stoic quality seen in movies; it's the messy, anxious, and often terrified decision to take the next step. Honegger argues that waiting for fear to subside is a trap that keeps us from our most meaningful work. The only courage that truly matters is the imperfect kind we summon in moments of uncertainty.
This idea was born with her business, Noonday Collection. Before the pawnshop, there was the first trunk show. After meeting artisans in Uganda, Honegger decided to sell their handmade goods from her home to raise money for her son's adoption. The night before the event, she was paralyzed by fear. The fear of failure, of rejection, of her friends seeing her as desperate. She nearly canceled the whole thing. But in a moment of clarity, she decided to simply "go scared." That trunk show was a resounding success, selling over 90% of the goods and planting the seed for what would become a global, direct-sales brand. This experience taught her a foundational lesson: imperfect courage is still courage. It’s the only kind most of us have, and it’s more than enough to get started.
Authenticity Requires Silencing the Inner Critic and Owning Your Real Story
Key Insight 2
Narrator: Honegger introduces a powerful concept for the voice of self-doubt that lives inside all of us: the "Itty Bitty Baloney Sauce Committee," or IBBC. This is the internal chorus that tells us we're not good enough, that we'll fail, that we should play it safe. A crucial step in living courageously is learning to recognize and silence this committee.
For years, Honegger felt pressure to present a polished, "should" story for her company's founding. The ideal narrative would involve a fashion degree, an MBA, and venture capital funding. The real story was far messier: a Latin American studies major who became a real estate agent, started a business out of financial desperation during the housing crisis, and ran it from a guest bedroom with a desk in the bathroom. For a long time, she hid this reality, believing it made her seem unprofessional. However, she realized that trying to rewrite her story was a form of inauthenticity. Embracing the real, imperfect narrative—the struggle, the pawnshop, the scrappy beginnings—was not only freeing but also far more relatable and inspiring. Authenticity isn't about having a perfect story; it's about having the courage to own the real one.
Vulnerability, When Met with Empathy, Creates Compassionate Spaces
Key Insight 3
Narrator: Courage and authenticity are not solo acts; they flourish in community. Honegger argues that true connection is forged when vulnerability is met with empathy. This creates a safe, compassionate space where people can heal and grow.
One of the most powerful illustrations of this comes from her experience in Rwanda. Her family's adoption was facilitated by a Rwandan lawyer named Norbert. Years later, on a return trip, Honegger learned that Norbert was a survivor of the 1994 genocide, having lost nearly his entire family in the most brutal way imaginable. He had never shared the full details with anyone, not even his wife, Florence. In a moment of profound trust, he shared his harrowing story with Honegger and her husband. Years later, when Honegger returned with a group of Noonday Ambassadors, she asked Norbert if he would share his story again. He agreed, and this time, Florence was there to listen. Afterward, Florence thanked Honegger, explaining that since first sharing his story, Norbert had begun to truly heal. His vulnerability, met with the empathy of a safe audience, unlocked a path toward wholeness that had been closed for years.
The Sisterhood Effect is the Force of Collaboration Over Competition
Key Insight 4
Narrator: Honegger champions a phenomenon she calls the "Sisterhood Effect," where women actively choose to support and celebrate one another, turning competition into collaboration. This effect is a powerful antidote to the comparison and judgment that often keep women isolated.
A vivid example of this occurred within the Noonday community. An ambassador named Mindy hosted a trunk show to help a teenage girl raise money for a volunteer trip to Haiti. In a cruel twist, the girl's friends organized a boycott, and no one showed up. Heartbroken and furious, Mindy shared her story on the private Noonday Ambassador Facebook page. What happened next was the Sisterhood Effect in action. Ambassadors from across the country, women who had never met Mindy or the teenager, began placing orders. They rallied online, sending messages of encouragement and using their own money to support a sister in need. The trunk show ended up grossing over six thousand dollars. It was a powerful demonstration that when women stand together, they can overcome negativity and create profound good.
True Impact Comes from Widening Your Circle and Leveraging Your Power
Key Insight 5
Narrator: To build a flourishing world, Honegger insists we must widen our circle of compassion beyond our immediate friends and neighbors to include the entire world. This isn't about charity in the traditional sense, but about creating opportunity and "linked prosperity," where everyone in a business ecosystem thrives together.
This principle is embodied in the story of Rosario, an artisan business leader in Guatemala, and Alicia, one of her employees. Five years ago, Alicia's family was struggling because her mother needed expensive medication. Rosario, despite her own family's financial difficulties, widened her circle. She taught Alicia how to bead and hired her. When Noonday began placing regular orders with Rosario's business, it created a steady, reliable income. Today, Alicia is married, expecting her first child, and has a dignified job that allows her to afford her mother's medication and plan for her own child's future. This isn't a story of a handout; it's a story of opportunity, partnership, and the ripple effect of conscious capitalism.
Sustainable Impact Requires Commitment, Not Just Trying
Key Insight 6
Narrator: The final piece of the puzzle is sustainability. A life of impact is a marathon, not a sprint, and it's easy to burn out. Honegger makes a critical distinction between "trying" and "committing." To "try" is to leave an escape route open. To "commit" is to be all in, but it also requires pacing and self-care.
She shares the story of Rebecca, a Noonday ambassador who, after adopting a baby, threw herself into her business with such intensity that she quickly burned out. She became "no good to anyone." Realizing this, Rebecca took a step back and recalibrated. She established boundaries and set a more measured, consistent pace for her work. She learned that consistency is more valuable than intensity. By committing to a sustainable pace, she became a better ambassador, mother, and friend. This illustrates that long-term impact isn't about heroic, unsustainable bursts of effort. It's about the quiet, daily commitment to showing up for yourself so you can continue to show up for the world.
Conclusion
Narrator: The single most important takeaway from Imperfect Courage is that you are already equipped to make a difference. It doesn't require a different personality, a better resume, or a life free of fear. It requires a willingness to act with your fear, to own your messy story, and to link arms with others. Building a flourishing world is not the work of a few perfect people, but the collective effort of many imperfect people choosing to be courageous together.
The book leaves us with a profound challenge. It asks us to look at our own lives—our power, our pocketbooks, our priorities, and our perspectives—and ask not "What can I do?" but "What will I do?" The most challenging idea is that our comfort can be the biggest obstacle to our calling. So, are you willing to step out of your bubble-wrapped existence and into the beautiful, complicated, and meaningful work of building a better world, one imperfectly courageous step at a time?