Autumn: Today we're diving into "Drama Free" by Nedra Glover Tawwab, a practical guide for navigating those difficult family relationships – even the subtle kinds – that leave you feeling drained. Autumn: Do certain family calls instantly spike your stress before a big meeting? Or maybe holiday gatherings leave you so exhausted you can barely focus on work the next day? Many of us are stuck in family dynamics – big blow-ups or just constant low-level tension – that drain our energy and bleed into our professional lives. We tolerate behaviors from family we wouldn't accept elsewhere, often feeling obligated or guilty. This chronic stress impacts our focus, our well-being, and keeps us stuck, unable to be fully ourselves. Autumn: So, how do we dial down this drama? It often starts with recognizing that what you experienced isn't necessarily 'normal' just because it's familiar. Then comes setting boundaries – think clear guidelines to protect your peace. Maybe it's saying 'I can't lend money this month' or deciding you won't discuss certain topics. Now, brace yourself: expect pushback. When you change the dynamic, people might react with guilt trips or anger. That resistance doesn't mean you're wrong; it often confirms the boundary was needed! A huge shift comes with acceptance. Not accepting bad behavior, but accepting you cannot force other people to change. Trying to rebuild them? It's exhausting and futile. So, where's your power? In controlling your reactions and expectations. Maybe you limit contact with a critical relative, or change how you engage during difficult calls. Sometimes, creating distance is the kindest choice for you. And don't forget to put your own oxygen mask on first. If you're depleted, you have nothing left. Build your 'chosen family' too – those friends or mentors who offer genuine support and uplift you, providing the nourishment you might be missing. Autumn: Your takeaway: Think about one small boundary you could set this week. Maybe it's leaving a family dinner when you feel ready, not when expected, reclaiming your evening. Or perhaps deciding not to answer calls during focused work time. What small step can give you back a little peace and energy? Give it a try. Until next time, here's to being five percent happier.